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PASSENGERS: 1 Decision = 1 Life

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In my last blog post I wrote about this feeling many of us do experience in life, in a life which isn´t written by a well chosen script but which happens one day after the other:  that 1 decision in life often feels like you are only moving 1 inch/1 cm ahead.

If we decide about our professional career, we decide WHERE to enter and once we do enter this stage, we are placed on a start-position. From there, everything takes time. The future slows down.

If we decide about chosing our partner, we decide with WHOM to enter a partner-stage which means family and from marriage on, we start working on it. All attendees seem to slow us down.

If we decide about which hobby to follow mainly, we set a direction of which people we are going to meet in the future. We set fate and it will slow us down.

1 Decision = 1 inch.
Many other decisions will follow afterwards. Those decisions belong to a certain stage for which we have orientation. It will not feel SO HARD to make a choice, once we belong onto a certain “land”.

PASSENGERS

….did you see the movie?

I did watch it several times now and it includes 1 hard choice.
Unfortunately there is no obvious decision process to follow or to analyze, as the viewer, just the openly discussed thought-process:  “shall I ?” …. or: “shouldn´t I ?”   It was almost self-discussed.

The decision then was made but the overwhelming feeling won over the rational decision, and he did it. He did it for himself.  to survive. to live.

He made a decision for a stranger: unauthorized.

He changed the persons fate and personal dream. And it was not about a kid.  An adult made a decision for another adult, unauthorized.
He played his role well. He was accepted as a second passenger, for a while. One plot follows to destroy this dream and then another plot changes the game after a third person wakes up to join the two passengers.

The movie script really is interesting because right now in our life, we sometimes have to decide about somebodies life, in terms of surviving an illness – or not.  When doctors have to switch off the life saving machines or rather its energy, when it doesn´t make sense anymore.
This decision is opposite from it –

Life is more fun when you can share it with someone you like or even love!
Right?  Fact.

But to accept a superior decision, which wasn´t made by you, it seems that it always takes a third person who shows up to open your eyes and make you accepting it. It doesn´t matter whether the person offers his or her opinion or whether the person explains the problem from their point of view, it always takes three to be affected.

Three are forming a triangle.  It has 3 corners.
Two is a back and forth path and a back and forth thinking process.  It has two dead ends.

This is possibly the reason why we have trouble with pure rational decision making in life. It probably feels like we discuss it in or from a dead-end position. People mostly make decisions which are driven by emotions, driven by pure energy.

Know your position well, when you are facing a decision in life!  Write your srcipt. Energy is a trigger. Information helps us thinking the result throu´ rationally.  And sometimes we have to take risks.

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BE OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect


HOW TO make better decisions in 2018

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It´s almost the end of 2017 and you made a couple of life changing decisions during this past year.  But, with some decisions you were struggling.  Actually, you struggled with a few consequences which had to be adjusted to your daily life.

What happened?

You bought yourself a lifetime dream!  As a consequence, the extra monthly payments which escorted you through this year only, cut short your monthly budget. Just for 12 months – but it caused you to adjust 1 or 2 permanent monthly purchases. You had to let go of some luxury extra things in exchange for this lifetime dream.
When you made the decision you knew you had to let go of it for 1 year and you agreed to it – but then, every month you had to actively take care of not going-on as before.  Purchases can become habits.  You had to change a habit in 2017. Now that you obviously made it, today you think of letting go of those little purchases for good and instead do things differently in 2018.
This change now offers a new gap in your life!

You decided to  cut off your main vacation this year and instead go for 4 long-weekend vacations.  You were tired of staying in a hotel location for 2 weeks all day and you caught the feeling of not getting to know the world a little better. Variety was missing in your life for a long time and suddenly you discovered what was lacking – you noticed the extra fun when choosing to go to new places and talking with friends and family about it.
But you always had to pack different clothes for different activities and you mentally had to adjust yourself to new trips and different food. Looking back today, those short-trips make you smile!

Whatever you decide in life – when you look back after a while, think about HOW YOU RESPOND to the self chosen consequences.

How did you respond?
How did you respond to spent your monthly budget differently over 1 year?
How disciplined are you?
How strong or weak was your self-communication?
How often did you find yourself on the old path of habits to adjust your actions, again?

Did it make you smile?
Was it frustrating?
How do you think about it NOW?

How did you respond to the different trips all over this past year? You had to travel more often which consumed quite some extra time.  During those travels you met new people and you shared a few short conversations with strangers. You came home with some new recipes from different countries and afterwards you envited your friends, cooking for them what you loved most. How did your friends respond to these positive consequences?

How do you respond to the decisions other people make which affect you, at work?  How do you respond to the latest decision of your neighbour?  How do you respond to sudden disadvantages and advantages of those decisions?

One good thing your decision-making permanently offers is that you get to know yourself better and better.  Your responds to decisions deliver a lot of answers – it has an enriching effect because you can adjust yourself to get better and better in life.

Decisions, a great Self-Leadership Tool.
You only move 1 inch or 1 cm ahead in life after you made a new decision. But you move! And that´s the positive clue –

If this is your goal then this is the right website for you to stop-by and come back to –

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BECOME OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect

Review Your 2017 Decisions

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By the time the New Year starts, you automatically start thinking about future plans and new ideas for the next year, now in 2018!  Plans keep you alive and kicking, fresh plans lead you towards the future and into new situations.  Changes we plan and do are better than those which are forced on us from the outside.

You did check your list of dreams and wishes in the past winter and you started picking those which are next, in 2018.  Today it´s time to quickly review your decisions from the last year.

Why would you do this review?  Here are some reasons:

  • did you finish your decision-list from 2017?
  • is a major decision left which needs to be placed on top of this years´ list?
  • how did you deal with the consequences in 2017?
  • did you change some of your old habits to reach your 2017 goals?
  • did you reach all decision-goals? Yes: _______     no: _________
  • are you happy with what you made happen for yourself in 2017?

You can score the results with a 1 – 10 or check your feeelings about your past decisions:  How does it feels looking back:  are you pleased? Is there an unhappy gap? Are you thrilled? Do you feel successful?

Every review releases an impulse for your personal motivation.  It´s your motivation-level which acts like fuel or a motor for reaching future steps!  The better decisions you made in last year the more motivated you stay for this year.  You will act more efficient.

I was forced to go for some major decisions last year and I am happy that I made my tough decisions.  One major decision short-termly included extremely negative consequences but long-termly it delivers very positive consequences. I moved into a city 260 km away from where I lived for a long time.  It is probably not for good but it´s good for now!  It was a great decision, though it was tough to handle when it came to action. It was just 1 decision of many others.  I generally prefer to finish my own lists real quick.

What´s the result of your last years review?
Tell us about it – please leave a note – thx.

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BE OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect

Courage Widens The Opportunities

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Bouldness changes situations and it also creates situations!  Call it bouldness or courage,  fact is: courage offers new decision opportunities.

No, this blog-post is not about risk and craziness, combined with courage, when it comes to tough decision making in life.  I have a different idea for you today –

Ask yourself:  “how courageous am I when it comes to coincidence or luck?”

Well, honestly:  it doesn´t take much courage to grab the coincidence once it appears, especially when you put the coincidence on your decision-board of all available choices! It´s so easy to be prepared for the great chance – which is pending with an open date, of course.

If you have the choice between A and B and you look for a third “C”-choice, place the coincidence to the available alternatives.  Believe me, it´s not as easy as it sounds right now –

How could the ideal coincidence “look” like to fit well into your current decision scenario?

Think about it:  what needs to happen  that it suddenly clicks for you so your personal LUCK appears in front of you?  Luck, which will shorten the time to reach something which seemed too far away or, Luck which increases a certain number you aimed at !?

Exactly, it´s about this Luck, wrapped as a coincidence I write about today. If you´re courageous enough, write down the short scenario of this coincidence (1-3 sentences) and put it as an alternative to your choices.  THIS  IS  IMPORTANT !!  Don´t just think about it.  Take it out of your mind and make it visible for you.  Be crisp and short.

Only the prepared spirit will recognize and grab the coincidence!
If you´re not prepared to meet the ideal coincidence, you might risk to pass-by the great coincidence in life – and that would be foolish, wouldn´t it?  What a waste –

I think it takes some courage to put THE ideal coincidence among your desirable alternatives, onto the decision board.  The better you are prepared, the faster and the more secure you are going to act when it comes to make the final decision for the next weeks or months!  Do you agree?

Coincidence might cover the following:
— You lack information about something important which would take you onto the next level faster than A or B, and suddenly you read about it (WHERE could you get this information from?) –
— You know it takes months to finish or end something important and suddenly a company or new law/rule offers a criterion, product or device which speeds this process up (HOW should this law/product/device look and function like?) –

Get into the mode of thinking the coincidence well through and then write it down to make it visible.

Unfortunately I cannot guarantee it will happen to you, but mostly, it does happen (!)  …. because you´re simply prepared and once you look for something for a long(er) time, you´ll grab it once it´s in front of you!  You will not shy away from your personal chance  — promised!  🙂

You may also read my post about coincidence from last year July here

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BECOME OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect

Tall People Like, Making Decisions?

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If you care for decision making, you sure did read some articles in the past and presently.

You probably know by now that most of the decisions we take are done or regulated by our unconscious level, or they´re channeled through emotional systems in our body. H. G. Häusel from Munich gave some insight lately in a magazine I was reading, while my car got some new headlights (bulbs only).

I was aware that testosterone, the male hormone which helped fighting wild animals ages ago, also stretches the long bones in our body:  with more testosterone in the blood, men grow taller (legs, arms) than the others.  Testosterone stretches bones, also in female bodies!  Fact.

But what´s also new to me is, that testosterone makes it easier to decide!  Tall people have less trouble making decisions.  It makes sense because it´s originally related to fighting and killing animals, and when fighting or attacking a wild animal you have to make quick, good decisions. This is about the survival!

Testosterone also encourages our self-confidence in critical situations.  Well, again think of the wild animals men had to kill for ages to get food for their families. Testosterone sets free adventurousness! Testosterone strengthens the conviction that you “just did it right”.  Yes: we´re pre-programmed, at some point. Like it, or not….

Did you know?
Our genes “dictate” which hormones and second messengers will be produced in our body. If you´re familiar with your mental strength which you challenged and experienced yourself, you know you can change things, like your current health level.  As a matter of fact:  we can produce extra or different hormones when we permanently behave opposite the habits, which needs a strong will and purpose.

Now it´s time to reflect:
whom do you know who´s tall?  Is that a typical person which has fun making decisions?
Yes?
And who else is there who matches this info?  Any exception? Of course deciding is not everybody´s darling, no matter how tall or short people are, yes.  It takes more than this but it´s the basics for good and confident decision making.

I thought this must be pretty interesting for you!  If you like to, please leave a message….

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BE OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect

How To Get Away From Dictatorship

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Decision Making is a powerful key for the huge LOCK in the door of Dictatorship!

…..did you know?

I was raised to be my own boss, to rely on myself and to be self-confident. SELF was the magic word.  Learn everything to be informed.  In my life, I was never really locked to dictatorship thou´ somebody in my family prefered that special communication style of a dictator very much.  But I had different dreams and didn´t pay attention to it.

I was locked to something else and it was no person. Over a long period of time, I learned that decision making is the (low priced) favorable key to freedom.  Lessons learned: once you know how to get free, you know how to turn away from ANY kind of dictatorship!

WHAT is dictatorship and why does it trouble us?
Dictatorship is a violence method or instrument. Its basic is power. Dictatorship is very good during any time of need, in state of emergency. Fact. It is also a method of the defence of freedom, because you demand advantage or benefit.  Dictatorship is being used in extreme danger or risk.

What is behind the scene of dictatorship during time of extreme danger? One answer is: unlimited authorization.  Power is:  A)  Capital and   B)  Knowledge.

In politics, business and affairs are regulated through binding or mandatory decisions.  Decision making is ruled by the decision-making process, the basic is: forming (your) will.

So, what about YOU in this scenario of dictatorship?
If you grew-up in a running family without any social disruption or permanent trouble, you might have experienced dictatorship as a child and teenager  – once in a while when things turned dangerous – from your parents. Probably, simply to keep you safe!  Best case – worst case: to demonstrate power, over you and your “free will”.

At least, we all turn into adults and you learn to make your own decisions, and that´s when it comes to part from any kind of dictatorship in your life!!  Remember?  Starting with decision making in life, you start testing your will power and you also split from being locked/linked to somebody who still makes decisions FOR you.

The thing is, if someone is making decisions FOR YOU, it is mostly not your will which leads you but it´s the will of someone else.  Quite often, the goals are different or even opposite from yours and the dream which is sold to you, is not your own dream. To get away from this, you need a key, a method to free you from those chains.

Will you ever reach what you want in life? NO.
Will you ever be motivated? No.

If this speaks to you, it´s time to part and split from the current dictatorship in life and start making your own decisions.  You could split from family, physically, and move somewhere else to keep in touch but start your own life.  You could split from the company and boss you work for since years and find a new job.  You could finally split from your spouse or partner, stay single for a while to make your own decisions.

Decision Making is a great method to get away from dictatorship – from situations where things don´t develop nor run into YOUR direction but into the direction of somenone else.  If this other direction demotivates you – get away from it.

Ever thought about it?  Then start thinking about decision making as a great method to free yourself from dictatorship.  Lead yourself into your future, try it – try it now.

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BECOME OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect

The Picture Statement

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Choosing between two or three options/alternatives, being able to describe the goal well – both challenges include your strong imagination!  Imagination includes the word “image” –  call it a picture.

The better you can see that picture with your inner eye, the better you are going to lead yourself towards it.  The more “light” you create for yourself or your team the easier is the way to walk.  You simply see better and that´s quite a guarantee to reach the end.  Do you agree?  Then go on reading –

Your picture, which describes the goal and the alternatives you can choose from, should be clear and easy to understand.  It needs a simple statement!

Keep distractions out of it, reduce it to a typical image statement:

  • show a person (if necessary, yourself)
  • show the action
  • show the result (product?)

You may show all 3 items or just 1 item on your image.  Keep the background white unless it includes a special location which belongs to the goal or alternative. But background is a strong distraction!  Reduce distraction – stay focused!  Alternatively, you may watch this Video

Think like a designer and like a journalist:

Start from scratch, start with a white canvas and speak to yourself like a journalist does:
WHO does WHAT in this moment and WHERE? ….or WITH WHAT?  Complete this image, show the whole result to be sure you understand all consequences.  This methode makes it easier to choose!

Let´s look a bit closer:

A]  if you think about ending an old relationship to start a new relationship with a new partner, with the goal to have a family with the new loved one, you may take a picture of a baby to express this new goal.  This statement will support you to see the end of the tunnel you chose to walk through.  The image should show a whole baby – not only a smiling baby face because this baby brings responsibility to it!  It´s the light and strength you chose for a new beginning.  It´s all you need to look at!
That´s a statement!

b]   if you think about starting a new sport as a hobby or for serious competition, create an image of the main action!  That´s the basic statement which asks for permanent training – is it:
running?  Run!  Shooting?  Aim in concentration with the sports-weapon you´re going to use!  Tennis?  Hit the ball!  Golf?  Hit the ball in front of your feet!  Swimming?  Choose a special swim-style and work yourself throught the water!  Singing?  Be on stage and sing!  Dancing?  Choose a typical strong pose!
That´s a statement.

c]  if you think about a new job or maybe a start-up, place yourself at your fav´ desk and put pictures of potential customers behind yourself on the wall so you can see them when looking at this image!  No other distractions.  You, a clean desk, and pictures of your most desirable customers in the background.
That´s a statement!

With a clear picture statement it´s easier to choose the right alternative and to reach the next goal!  It motivates you, it is clearly pulling you towards it – there´s no way to turn away from it.  Be sure you understand what you choose – show it!

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BE OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect

Extra Profit

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Sorry for being a bit absent this summer – it´s been quite a while that I was posting an article for you!
I started some successful private projects, and now I am back. In the past months I chose topics for you which are related to the active process of Decision Making.

Today, I turn into the direction of WHY it´s good to train ourselves making more decisions than others. If you´re active in life, always heading forward rather than resting, you´ll be facing more decision situations than others. Does it speak to you?

Let´s have a quick look at why we will face decision situations in life:

Our life in the Western world is quite organized and actions are placed into running processes. Every time we find ourself in a running process, either in private- and business life, things are organized in a way that we needn´t ask ourselves how to go-on, what to do next and whom to ask for information.  Help is there, we just need to go for it and take it. We function.

Now imagine or remember the situation that occurs suddenly when something unexpected appears in front of you. This new situation suddenly “attacks” either:  your budget, the available time span, a great idea you were just following or the well running partnership.
Whatever appears, it now blocks your running system. What do you need to do? Figure out a quick solution! How do you approach to this potential solution? Yes, you have to take a decision.

This asks for gathering relevant information! Remember the MINT-formular I talk about in one of my video clips on my Youtube chanel: MINT formula  to make quick decisions. It´s so supportive.

What of these 4 aspects can wait? What´s there in the process that shouldn´t be damaged? What can be at risk now? Do I need to take care of the budget? Do I have to split some of my  $$ for this new opportunity?  Should I post-pone “this” to not risk the time span I was calculating when starting this project? Will this decision harm one of my partners? Will I lose a great personality?
Think it through –

Of course you know this procedure, when you´re one of my readers – so let me add another brick to this platform to make you see more than you do right now. Let me lift you a bit higher –

EXRA PROFIT –  here´s what decision makers will gain in the long run:
YOU will get to KNOW YOURSELF!

For reaching the goal of self-development always add the brick of decision making. We make good decisions and we make bad decisions in life. Every time we get a result in life we will understand why it went OK and why it went totally wrong:

  • Deciding is dividing
  • Deciding is focussing
  • Deciding is concentrating

We automatically get to know ourselves better and we learn things about other people. Deciding makes us understand how life functions around us and where there is a trend to follow. Deciding is orientation in life. Again, any time we get a result we will know what´s good for us and what´s not good for us. Reaching results make us see who we are and who is around us. It makes us see who´s in our team, in our partnership(s), our family and in the neighbourhood.  We REALIZE more and more WHO we are.

Having a clear sight of WHERE we are helps us reducing the potential stress-level we face from time to time.  This helps us having more energy for concentrating on new things.  In the end, we stay highly motivated…..

….isn´t that a respectful reason for becoming a good decision maker?  Well, you may think about it.

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BECOME OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect


TESLA, Might Change Their Strategy

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I had a job interview almost 2 weeks ago, when applying for a new project – quite a perfect fit for my competencies in the German Automotive Biz.  What can I say: the interview went very well on that Friday morning. I was invited to my most favourite Company, here in NRW and in the end, the other candidate who offered 4 languages fluently, won. I heard it was tight for me and such is life!

I knew that a 3d and 4th language as a skill more and more becomes a tough rival to me, so I had to face that being business fluent in English isn´t an ace anymore.  It hurt pretty much because….. since a few years I was day dreaming about working with or working for TESLA, one day. Well, this Company is a supplier of TESLA and my chance to reach this goal was gone within 35 minutes….

In the meantime TESLA, led by Elon Musk, comes up with a DECISION process which was pretty much unexpected and it carries this information from TWITTER:  ” Am considering taking Tesla private at $420. Funding secured.” That was quite an interesting tweet!

Lets have a deeper look at the WHY of this decision, which isn´t yet signed nor valid: TESLA needs an environment where it can operate at its best.

What happened in the past?
Becoming a member of the stock market changed the way this company was being led: raucous up- and downturns of the stock price kept on leading to numerous distractions. This is not what the staff and shares holders need and want. Finally, it seems to me that this particular bank business model is not the rescue to change games on the global market and be a guarantor for endless buiness growth. Speed during a growth process never is good.

Now the world will have a look at this new potential decision and we´ll get to know the result!

I think this is a very good example of what Decision Making is about – changing things which aren´t supportive to a serious goal. Such decisions speed-up things which might go into a wrong direction, longtermly and I think that this is where the SPEED Factor belongs.

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BE OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect

Decisions Are Directing You & Others

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You know, your decisions are the best method of self-Leadership and of leading others!
Right?

With decisions and a certain action, you can solve conflicts real fast and you can also trigger a “plot”, which is a new direction. This is a technique you sure remember from script writers and the movie makers, when a movie scene suddenly changes direction and everthing starts new.

It´s a method for wowing and confusing the viewer –

A Plot mostly is connected to emotions which take over the part of our rational decision making. That´s often the human trigger for changing a direction in life – your emotions drive you real fast. Remember such a scene? It gets bad when it´s triggered to sudden loss or embarassing situations. Nobody likes sudden losses or embarassment in life.

Once you´re trained through unnessary losses by emotions and unattractive decision making in life, you will slowly start thinking rational first, when it comes to decision making.  You will stop and think! Remember such a situation?  Reflect for a moment.

Let´s stay on this stage of working with plots as a script writer and being the director of the play:
the person who is the director is the decision maker!! Reflect again – are you always the director?

The director decides how and when the plot shall be implemented, how the next twist shall be played in the next scene.  A new action within the running scene or a running direction must appear when a significant change shall provoke the twist of fate!  It´s mostly generated by the director, right?

But what if you become a victim of a stranger, a sudden director who takes over the lead in your life without …. telling you first? What if somebody suddenly makes decisions for you? It´s like a throw-back into childhood when you were a kid.  So, what if you notice this real fast and you don´t want this sudden change?  What do you decide?

To take back the lead and to become the director again, you need an unerring OR a virtue led strong “will power”! With a strong will power you can easily change the sudden plot for a turn so it becomes a merit for YOUR life again.  Will power helps ignoring an interfering potential director and it helps killing this new dangerous action. If you have to interfere into an unwillingly action you need to make fast decisions!

Will power is pure rational thinking – it´s being fully awake and controlling your emotions.  Controlling your emotions is part of a positive attitude!  Being positive is basis of being your own director!
Only this kills sudden conflicts and helps walking into YOUR direction, again.

You won´t allow anybody to become the director with sudden plots in your personal movie when you are a strong decision maker with will power.

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BECOME OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect

Intuition

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During my Seminar with female engineers I offered time for an open discussion about the gut-feeling when it comes to decision making. To get the topic started I began with the following:

All our different life-experiences are transferred into emotions and into diffuse body-signals, to be stored in the limbic system of our brain, just to awaken as pictures in immediate decision situations!

BUT ATTENTION:  our past is “just” electricity in the brain! It doesn´t say a word about the future….

The defition of intuition is THE BELIEF to know  with what we can reckon with and the hope of its point in time-determination. This is tricky!
For more detailed information, I recommend to watch the 2 video clips I filmed for you, both are exclusively about intuition: intuition part 1 and intuition part 2

The following is about HOW intuition “functions”:   intuition can work around certain information-gaps and conflicts in the available stored information in our brain. Note, that intuition can be misled if too many of the (old stored) facts are wrong or when some are missing.
Be self-critical and reflect whether your competence is sufficient….

To use intuition during our decision making process really makes sense and it feels effective because intuition navigates us real quick through the unstructured data of our subconsciousness. This forces us to do the homework of our actual situation or topic – so consider your emotional condition:  if your resilience level is low due to stress or a bad mood (negative feelings), your subconsciousness will be distorted and the inner voice is gone (emotional condition). The same is valid for strong positive feelings (opposite).
If you are emotionally in balance, if your resilience level is in balance, you´re in the best position to listen to your subconsciousness, use the gut feeling! This is when the inner voice is loud and clear.

But be aware that the intuition probably won´t work 100 % when it comes find the relevant numbers for your job issues.  Numbers and facts need to be picked consciously!

Let me know what else is important for you to know, so please leave a comment or ask questions!

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BE OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect

 

A RISKY Decision ?

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Last year in August – quite a while ago – I wrote a blogpost about the Tweet from Elon Musk about the biz of TESLA: Tesla´s Strategic Change

Elon Musk officially considered to change the strategy of how the business was running. Maybe it was just an idea, maybe it was a test for the market, maybe it was true and a honest step into a new future.

MAYBE.

So far we don´t know but we know that this TWEET turned out to become expensive.
What happened afterwards?

The Market value of Tesla dropped down by 10 Billion US $ between August 2018 and December 2018. On top, the American Law Enforcement Agency is/was checking a potential statutory violation. All in all, it looks like the decision from August 2018, to launch this tweet, was quite risky. It might have cost Elon Musk his freedom of the power of TESLA´s businesses.

Playing the game of driving the economy is no news.
If we keep the status quo – fine: let´s all lean back and fall asleep. I am sure that nobody will risk something nowadays which is of a great value to that person. We all know what we do, we have learned about consequences and a real player knows his or her moves on the chessboard. I suppose –

As much as every glass is half full and every sunshine causes shade it´s obvious what we possibly will gain or lose when we play this or that move with the goal to change something – in our life. Moving includes others, and it keeps the world going round.
Still, we don´t know how much purposefulness was hidden behind the tweet from August but if there was some unexpected loss involved, I am sure there is the strong willingess to get it all back!

……what do you do when you´re on top of the world?

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BECOME OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect

Do You Think it Through?

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I often get to hear that people do not like to make a decision:  there is the comfort zone which “feels” so well, there is the future – so far away and unclear to see, there is the change waiting around this new corner….. so people go on with their life as they did before. 

Some maybe wait for their fate to show up and make a decision?

I don´t think it´s the way which it´s supposed to be.  Do you?

My tip for you:  be open for the new and THINK IT THROUGH. Make yourself comfortable with the (potential) results of this next decision of yours. Be quicker than fate! Take direction on your own, at least: TRY to!

Not everybody always gets what they decided to get but suddenly things start moving. Think it through to make sure you would like the result! Do you? Start with an easy decision – what about a vacation trip in a Metropolitan, land or island where you have never been before?

THINK IT THROUGH:  what would you like most of it?  Make a list! Then next check your budget – what´s most realistic for you to book? Now choose pictures from those places from the internet and check out your mimic while watching them: watching which picture makes you smile? The photos which make you smile most will show the city, landscape or beach of your next trip – you take the decision! ….and it is pretty risk free.

Be outstanding – Be a decision maker

How To Involve Yourself

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Decisions are everywhere and we mostly pay attention to only those which seem to be “big” or life changing! Do you agree? My advice: do not be scared when taking decisions, small or big, there is no reason to worry! We all learn in life to gain more life experience.

My indirect colleague as a trainer, my passive coach and as a huge fan, I recommend to watch the video from Brendon Burchard who talks about his life changing decisions, here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYjTr6s6DaY

Yesterday I gave you the hint to “think it through”, when you are facing a bigger decision with more change than you wish to face. Think it through: sit down and imagine it all happens soon, then check yourself how you feel about it. A smile on your face is always a great, positive indicator! Do you frown or do you smile while thinking it through?

Use your outlook ability: when was the last time you were disciplined enough to get to a big goal? How long did it take? Was it back in school? Or when facing your marriage, looking forward to the wedding day? Did you had to save money before you were able to buy something big? If you remember that you worked hard on something which took some time, you are already 1 step ahead towards the next decision goal! One success leads to the next. That´s called awareness.

How resilient are you? Can you stand a lot? Or are you easily in tears? Make sure you know yourself very well when taking bigger decisions. Mainly, the short rough way to get somewhere fast is only reserved for people who can stand a lot. Those people are often very life experienced. If you are more emotional than others, you may take the longer path which consumes more time but it offers enough space to get used to the change. That´s the secret!

All we can do in life is adding up our decisions, one after the other. Be aware that life plays its own cards towards us and those are sometimes different from what we need in our hands. Never have expectations when rushing into something. You can only expect things when you work hard on something and that sure takes time. Fact.

Be a decision maker – Be outstanding

How 2 Say “NO”

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In my last three video-clips and in the next three clips from this summer, I explain why it is so important to say “NO” when taking decisions in life. You may check it out on my Youtube Chanel.

Saying “NO” is becoming very important when you will have to say “YES”, to one option! If you choose a new goal, a new offer or a new chance for change in life which will make you say “YES”, on the other hand you will have to say “NO” to the other options. Saying YES once, makes you turn away from everything else.

Sometimes it is hard to say “NO”, probably to yourself, which is part of self-discipline. If you have trouble saying “NO” strictly, to others or to yourself, you may need a good method to learn it.

I´ve been through several bad situations in life which were pain driven. Some felt so bad when I had to say “NO” simply, ´cuz I couldn´t run away from those situations. I had to stay and fight for myself to keep the pain low, or to even convince the opponent to stop offering this new “painful” situation. I struggled to find a STOP button!

Unfortunately I had no strong arguments back then for this “no” so I had to find a way to be persuasive …. in front of M.D.´s….. no easy thing! Looking back, I realize today that I was acting in various roles, which helped me becoming strong after passing those situations (tests?).

What roles am I talking of? Okay, this is what I had to “be” (not play) when arguing for me and for the better:

  1. I was acting like a professional defender ( in court ), with and without arguments. I had to stay cool, communicate kind, come up with arguments or with comparisons to my past just to be convincing.
  2. I was acting like a professional prosecutor, putting my own values in front of me like setting hurdles for the opponent to keep him on distance. I had to be aware what was important to me, like arguing with my own law.
  3. I was acting like a great journalist, always researching and travelling to be armed with information or matching comparisons.

To learn what it takes to be a great journalist, a great defender and a great prosecutor, I was watching Hollywood movies of those topics preferably. Actually, I liked those topics most – in the beginning – honestly not knowing “why” I was so fond of it.

Here is the path to my Youtube chanel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkU9LODbGbd2XBsoqdLjX6w?disable_polymer=true

Be a decision maker, be outstanding!

riTA


Hollywood Producers “Say Yes”

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In my latest video-clips, I explain that it takes a couple of strong “No´s” to argue the chosen option of your decision, either in front of an opponent or if you lack some self-discipline, with yourself.

In any case of a decision, you said “Yes” to one option and now you prioritzed it. You did that to get along in life, right? I bet you said YES to reach a goal, or to change a wrong path or to solve a big problem.

When prioritizing your actions, you said NO to all other options. Sometimes, saying “No” is not an easy task in life. Watching many Hollywood block busters over decades helped me understanding this life, our actions, what to say (next time!), what to do, how others function and I figured out what I liked most and what made me smile in life.

Priceless.

Even Hollywood Producers say “Yes” to their best options, discussing: “will this topic work for the current market?” And many times they have to say “no” to the rest we won´t see on the big screen. Just a few scripts/topics are worth it. Every movie is a product, an investment with the aim to make money with it, after selling/showing.

In my latest video clips on Youtube, I recommend a couple of older movies which bravely handle the legal topic! “A Few Good Men (1992), “A Time To Kill (1996) and “The Lincoln Law (2011). Let me I add “Boston Legal” and the latest big hit “Suits” to this short list –

The 3 movies especially, explain clearly what great research means, what arguing in front of others means, what defending takes, which role the prosecutor plays and that we, as a decider, can learn from all 3 roles for our decision taking. The secret is their communication style. Facts only.

If you come near to those mindsets of all 3 professions, you get closer to what decision taking “takes and means”. But this blog-post is about something else!

Hey Hollywood, you have to say Yes to a new legal-topic movie!

There is a gap within the past years when producing super heros, again and again. Okay, heros are the Jackpot, we all get it, and: congratulations (!) As a BIG THANKS, let me give you my ideas, as a free gift:

— you may choose a topic with lawyers who have to handle “moving trouble” in Space, above earth! No murder, no – an incident in space which has to be handled at court, concerning more than 1 Nation on earth, make it bigger, get out of the USA and involve another country. 1.) Space law is the future!

— you may choose another Space Law topic starting with a professor at a University (Yale?) who teaches Space Law while an earth threatening incident happens in space, the TV-News come up with it, weapons are stored in space (how? by whom?) Somebody on earth figures it out, a few students then gather on social media to exchange ideas/info, combine it with the weak weapon´s law which is a current topic in the USA, involve a fictitious President. 2.) Space Law with (stored) weapons!

Both HOT topics, and if you choose one of it, you have to say “No” to the other idea. Or store it. Or combine it.

Be a decision maker, Be outstanding!

riTA

Your NO is Protection

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In my last blog-posts and video-clips I explain how and why to argue a strong “No” during the Decision Process.

You may wonder why I point at it so directly – let me explain why:

The strong “No” protects your Yes.

During the Decision Process, once you made the choice, you decided for 1 option and that includes letting go of everything else. You demonstrate and argue the letting go with a strong “no” of everything else.

A “no” is not a decision, it´s part of the decision process. It belongs to the long-run of your decision to reach the goal most efficiently.

Every “No” you say is a protection for your goal, for your Yes for something new in life. It´s pure responsibility you show when saying Yes once, and No to everthing else.

Let me tell you a true story from my past, an experience I made in Barcelona at the International Airport, being on a business trip (Automotive Business), when I had to say “No” to protect myself and my private budget.

It was the kindest “no” I ever said to a stranger, when life was testing me.

I entered the Airport hall to wait for my colleagues who came in later from Stuttgart that day. I was on my own, looking for a friend who said who would come to share a coffee with me. We met in fall 2006 in France when we both took the same French class in Vichy.

I stood there among hundreds of people trying to find her face. Instead, I spotted a guy within the crowd who suddenly was staring at me, actually staring right into my eyes, like I was his target. I looked away immediately and moved somewhere else. A few minutes later I met my friend from Barcelona.

We went upstairs into the Café and chose a table at the balcony. In about 1 hour I would meet my co-workers from Stuttgart so we had time to talk. After a while, I suddenly saw this stranger from the crowd come up the staircase, checking all tables, finally seeing me and walking straight up to our table.

I knew it meant trouble – potentially. I looked at him when he looked at me, again, awaiting what he wanted. I don´t recall his exact words but he wrapped it in 1 sentence when he directly asked me for some money. He officially tried to rob me in front of my girlfriend!

I knew I didn´t like it at all and I knew I wouldn´t allow him to rob me, officially. No! I work hard for my monthly pay-check and I decide what I do with my budget. Not this way! He was dressed quite nice and looked OK to me, so why let go of something I already had better plans for?

Within a second I smiled at him, thanked him for this kind question and told him that this topic is not of my interest at all. He stood there, listened, looked irritated for 1 second, turned around and – left.

He didn´t go to any other table! There was no other target person but me – and he left the scenery of my decision making play. My girlfriend almost slid off the chair, landing under the table – just to demonstrate what she was going through, thou´ she was sitting in the audience!

It´s You who decides what´s OK to take in life and what´s not acceptable. If you do not agree to what is happening to you, you´re allowed to say “no”. Fact. The decision was not the “no” I said, the decision was to keep my budget. I didn´t agree to give away any of my Euros. Not this way.

BTW: a strong-minded “no” is not a loud “no”.

Be a Decision Maker, Be outstanding!

riTA

Decision Quality

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This week I thought about the issue of the Quality of Decision Taking!

This aspect sure needs some attention, especially for the time AFTER the decision was made. It´s the exact time when it comes to realise the new path with your daily habits and actions, aimed to reach the result. There are 4 parts to look at:

Discipline: daily repeating the new action without any distraction is what discipline is about. It simply means you stay on track towards your goal.

Target-oriented: that means you think of and work on reaching the new result on a daily basis. You consider the new necessary actions within the available time frame of yours or of the team.

Focussed: being focussed means you don´t lose sight of the new goal and it goes hand-in-hand with acting target-oriented on a daily basis.

Stability: is the same as rigidity – you slowly build and then walk on a new path of actions and when repeatingly acting towards the chosen goal, without any distraction during a certain time, your actions will be firm. That´s called stability and it´s a big part of quality.

Here´s an example: lately you chose further education which will take 2 years in total. The exams take place after certain blocks. Your aim is to increase your competency/authority.

To reach this goal you chose, you invest $$ from your budget, you invest extra time on a daily basis, you train your idea-Mgmt. and your learning aptitude. You start with a plan when to learn (what time suits you best?) and how long you´ll learn on a daily basis (2-3 hrs.). That´s the new action! Now you have to implement this new plan into your life. My advice: learn 4 x per week.

You work on not being distracted during this time to reach your goal without changing this plan. If you have to increase the time for extra learning when the exams get closer – Yes, that´s another good decision!

For those of you who rather love to watch and listen to some advice, you may check out the video of this topic here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rOStps_c1No

Goal reaching is a huge part of decision taking! The moment you decide, you start with change. The moment change starts, it´s up to you how disciplined you are going to reach it! Keep the stability in mind – and GO!

Be a Decision Maker – be outstanding!

riTA

Still Insecure with Decision Taking?

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It´s only the big life decision which makes you toss and turn at night, forcing you to leave the nice, warm, familiar comfort zone…. right?

Normally, you decide about many things within your comfort zone, which mean no big change, no big loss, no big win – no big deal! Do you think about such decisions in particular? No – because, you know what´s important for your life, what you need to keep within and what you don´t want any closer.

Your daily orientation keeps an eye on the budget, it includes your friends and biz partners, it considers your new ideas or ideas from friends and it´s about the time you have available. You don´t lack the important overview of all 4 factors, do you?

But when a new life decision is suddenly waiting for you around the corner – there is no strong overview coming with you…. oh well.

Did you face such situation lately? Then you know you have to sit down quickly to prepare the next move to not lack a negative surprise.

If you became active as a decider, write down your 3 best options in particular following the decision tree, which I explained in 2013 here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u8eWP6ahmuI&t=24s

Between your options A, B and C you might notice that for you too, TIME and the BUDGET ($$) both are the main relevant factors to reach an outstanding new goal. In my video clip i.e., both factors were relevant for me. I was the active decider.

In this short video clip about the “important and unimportant” things I explain the 4 factors you need to consider for a bigger life decision: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_jPK_d-cOXc

Both tools are great for preparing for a new big life decision! It´s a bit different when you are passive in this scenario, when you have to react to a decision from an active decider, like from a company or a biz partner. Write down your best options A, B and C to react in detail to the big decision somebody else took.

Hope this helps you with your current insecurity…..

Be a decision taker – be outstanding

riTA

2020: How You Do It Best

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Soon, you enter the New Year with all of us! Excited?

Don´t worry, this blog-post is not about your new goals and major decisions for 2020, no. This blog-post is about pointing to the consequences only, which actually “drive” your decisions: the past decisions, pending decision results and new decisions.

Did you ever notice in the past that it is mainly up to how you handle the consequences of your decisions, because running the consequences is running and controlling the actual speed towards the end-goal.

All in all, this speaks officially about the quality of your decisions! It´s what others will notice.

Okay, here´s what you will do from now on when it comes to handle the decision-consequences: let´s look at two different consequences which both always will appear in front of you – it is either TIME or $$ €€ !! !! !!

TIME factor:

remember, when you make a decision like (A) quitting your current apartment to move into a new one, or (B) starting an education to improve your job-situation aside to your fulltime job, or (C) you need to buy something which will cost quite a lot so you need to cut other expenses for a longer time than just 3 months….

Make the new consequences visible to yourself! This is how you do it:

A) you decided to quit your current apartment to move on: check your lease agreement (contract law) about how long you have to wait before you can take active action, find the new option and then write the dismissal. Make sure the dates of moving out and -in do match. NOW you figured out the relevant TIME factor! The running time is a consequence which needs to be obeyed to stay within the available fix budget. Make a plan how long it will take to pack and to un-pack it all. What date do you have to start packing? On a daily basis, plan each step in time. Maybe choose 1 hr. per day from the 1. day on or all week-ends fulltime. Make a test: how long does it take, packing 1 box? Count the boxes you need now! Do the maths.

B) You signed-up for an education which lasts, say: 1 year! It starts next month. From next month on, you need to have extra time for this which means, cut off time of other current interests and use it for the new education. Of which current interests will you cut the necessary time off? It is a 1 year lasting, permanent consequence which you need to follow on a daily basis. Make a plan to follow! Use the calendar.

C) You decided to buy something which will cost quite a lot! It doesn´t really matter whether you will safe the relevant bucks ($$ €€) before you get to buy it later or whether you decide for a loan which means monthly payments for a certain time. Again, TIME is a relevant factor, somehow or other. Let´s say you decide to safe the money first and buy later, just to safe the extra payment for the loan and because it can wait. The consequence now is, on a monthly basis, to strictly safe a fix amount of $$ and do the maths: which month in which year will you be able to buy it? Make a plan of how much you plan to safe, use the calendar to follow it strictly. A permanent consequence like this will excort you to your goal!

I am sure these 3 different examples explain quite clear how you deal with consequences which are linked to the relevant TIME factor. Always make a plan and use a calendar unless you are very disciplined.

Now go ahead and decide about your consequences of the next decisions…… And, all the best for 2020 to you, your family and friends. Thanks for being here once in a while and if you have questions, leave a note –

Be a decider – Be outstanding

riTA

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